True love takes graft to last, right? Well, since splitting from His Godliness Johnny Depp (sob), Vanessa Paradis has revealed that she disagrees. In a recent interview, she told French Elle that she hates it when people preach that ‘you have to work at being a couple’. She says, ‘No. You have to want to be there.’ (In case of any confusion as to why she wouldn’t ‘want to be there’ – yes, we are still talking about Johnny Depp.)
But is it as simple as that? We’ve all, sadly, been there – none of us are under any illusions that relationships are easy. Who else has been in a situation where, two years down the line, things are decidedly less rosy than they were at the beginning? Somehow that toe-wiggling spontaneity and excitement from the beginning has morphed into fights over which veg you want for tea and who did the last load of ironing. You’re at a communicative crossroads – and you’ve more or less forgotten why you were with him in the first place.
And so the talking begins. In an ideal world (and for the lucky ones), issues are easily resolved and the romance is restored. For the rest of us, it’s decided we should ‘work’ on our relationships.
And when we’re slogging so hard during the day, who really wants to go home to even more work? Just as Vanessa says, it’s the wanting to go home and see him that counts – work will only drive us away.
Some of you agree. ‘You do both have to want to be there,’ Christine McLean said on Grazia UK’s Facebook page. ‘It won't work if one of you doesn't.
‘If you are right together it works without it being hard work.’
Verona Hanlon wrote, ‘Disagree. Her point is he didn’t want to be a relationship/be there for her!!’
So, do you agree with Vanessa – should we shun working at our relationships? Voice your views!