Wondering why your last relationship didn’t work out? Blame Hugh Grant… Apparently our love of rom-coms is damaging our chances of finding real love. The theory, according to a new study out today, is compared to the big screen love affairs we sob into our popcorn over, mediocre real life romances can’t possibly measure up.
A poll of 1000 men and women, said half admitted rom coms had distorted their view of love. So much so they cited chick flicks like Love Actually as the reason they’re still single.
In particular men got a rom-com raw deal. One in four respondents in the Australian survey said they were now expected to ‘mind read’ what their partner was thinking. One in five said their other half expects gifts and flowers 'just because'. Well we bet Jude Law never turn up to a date empty handed.
'It seems our love of rom-coms is turning us into a nation of ‘happy-ever-after addicts’’, said Gabrielle Morrissey, the counselor who led the study, ‘But the warm and fuzzy feeling they provide can adversely influence our view of real relationships. 'Real relationships take work and true love requires more than fireworks.’
Don’t just take her word for it. A second study, carried out by researchers at the Heriot Watt University in Edinburgh found exactly the same thing. It found films like Notting Hill had a ‘significant’ effect on people’s love lives. In particular, couples failed to communicate effectively after watching films likes these, believing ‘if it’s meant to be’, their lover should know what they wants and need ‘without being told’.
Richard Curtis has a lot to answer for…
We open the forum to you. Are you a ‘happy ever after’ addict? Do you think rom coms have rose tinted your vision? Or is there nothing wrong with chasing the perfect Hollwood ending? Ask yourself, what would Julia Roberts do?
By Amy Molloy