09 April 2010

Divorced? Get over it!

 
Recently divorced? Recovering from heart-break? You’ve got 17months and 26 days grace – then you should be over it (according to a survey out today anyway).
 
Carried out by dating website fifties.com, it says after this (relatively short) rehabilitation period the average divorcee is ready to move on, after having dealt with the paperwork, resolved issues such as child custody, property problems and finances.

Ok, so that’s the logistics dealt with, but what about the emotional fall out? Of those divorcees questioned, 60% said the hardest thing to come to terms with, post split, was the sense of failure. And 55% said it was the worst thing they had ever gone through.

Bearing this in mind, and the fact a fifth said they’d ‘never’ get over their divorce, 17months and 26days doesn’t seem a very generous time frame to us. However the study says, many divorcees may be ready to move on even sooner as while on average it takes 18 months before divorcees are ‘content’, they start feeling ‘better about their’ life after 16 months and 11 days.

Divorcees typically start dating again 15 months and 26 days after a marriage breaks down.


'Obviously everyone is different and it will take some longer than others to get over the heartbreak of a split,’ said a spokesperson for the dating site who carried out the study, 'It's also going to greatly depend on which party wanted the divorce in the first place.
 
We want to hear about your first hand experiences… Is there a ‘magic number’ of months when it’s time to pull the band-aid off and move on. Or do surveys like this just put pressure on others to move on before it’s right for them…


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