Mary Portas One Life: Over To You

05 November 2009

Mary Portas

Every week in Grazia, Mary Portas listens to one reader's life dilemma and gives her honest, straight-talking advice. Today, it's your turn to help out Grazia reader Maria. She's had a tough time of late and been, understandably, putting her mother and husband first. Now she's got time to focus on herself -- how can she do this? And stop feeling guilty?

‘I’ve made sacrifices for my family – how can I get my life back?’

Last year I made the difficult decision to put my mother into a care home after she’d been living with me for a decade (I gave up my job as a PA in the fashion industry when she first became ill with Alzheimer’s). But when my husband was diagnosed with cancer last year, I realised that I couldn’t keep looking after everyone and Mum needed better care than I could give her. My husband is well now and my mum is content in her new home, but I’m finding it hard to know what to do with myself. I’ve tried looking for work but my confidence has been really knocked and as much as I know I need something for myself, I just can’t seem to find it.

Maria, 45, Birmingham

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