Mary Portas One Life: Over To You

16 September 2009

Mary Portas

Every week in Grazia, Mary Portas listens to one reader's life dilemma and gives her honest, straight-talking advice. Today, it's your turn to help out Grazia reader Lara, whose boyfriend is, financially, treating her more like a flatmate than a soul mate. Money is always a tricky issue in relationships -- how can Lara get her boyfriend to talk about this? And what do you think his attitude says about him?

‘I can’t keep up with my boyfriend’s spending’
My partner earns five times more than I do and used to pick up the bill for meals or trips away when we first met. But three years ago we bought an expensive house together and since then he’s expected us to share the cost of everything. For instance, he owns 80 per cent of the house to my 20 per cent, but we split the bills 50/50 which leaves me with little left over. This year he’s taken three holidays which I haven’t been on because I can’t afford to. I don’t expect to be bankrolled, but he keeps telling me changing the subject whenever I try to talk to him.
Lara, 39, London
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