Mary Portas One Life: Over To You

10 September 2009

Mary Portas

Every week in Grazia, Mary Portas listens to one reader's life dilemma and gives her honest, straight-talking advice. Today, it's your turn to help out Grazia reader Cath. Have you ever had a relationship you were, in retrospect, not proud of starting? And how do you think she can stop her ex from contacting her?

‘I regret my affair – now my lover won’t leave me alone’
Last year I started an affair with a married man from my office, but within five months the realities of being a mistress hit home, so I finished the relationship. Even though I ended it, I still missed him, so decided it would be easier for me to move on if we didn’t have any contact outside work. But he just wouldn’t accept my decision and, in the past six months, hasn’t stopped trying to get in touch with me. He emails, Facebooks and texts all the time. Even when I ask him to stop, it soon starts up again. We work together and I don’t want things to get even more difficult, but whatever I say or do, I can’t convince him to let go.
Cath, 33, Liverpool
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