Mary Portas One Life: over to you

07 August 2009

Every week in Grazia, Mary Portas listens to a reader's dilemma and gives her honest, straight-talking take on the situation. Today, it's your turn to help out Grazia reader Cerys. Read her letter and let us know what you think she should do next. Have you ever worried you'll never find the 'right' time to become a mum? Is her reaction totally normal when thinking about such a massive life change? Or does she need to be honest with her other half before it's too late?  

‘Will I ever feel ready to have a baby?'
Before getting married last month, my husband and I agreed to wait to have a family. But while on honeymoon, he suggested we start trying straight away and I agreed. Now I feel terrified because I'm scared about how much our life will change. I also wonder if I really want to be a mother if I'm not desperate for a baby at 36? I can't talk to my husband about how I feel because I don't want him to question how much I love him.
Cerys, 36, Norwich

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