Mary Portas One Life: Over To You

20 May 2009

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Every week in Grazia, Mary Portas lends her ear to a reader with a burning issue and gives her savvy, no-nonsense take on the situation. Today, it's your turn to offer Grazia reader Sarah some much-needed advice. Take a look at her letter below – Sarah's in a really tricky situation. Do you think she should let her mum back into her life?

Is hiding Mum the solution?
My mother always drank heavily but it spiralled out of control after my father died suddenly when I was 18. My sisters and I went through a lot because of her addiction. Today, we're hardly in touch although my mum swears she's sober. The problem is that I'm about to buy my first house with my boyfriend, whom my mother has never met, and she wants to visit. It's causing real tension with my boyfriend because he can't understand why I want to keep her away. He comes from a stable, loving family and says it might ruin my relationship with my mother for good if I refuse to let her visit. What should I do?
Sarah, 25, Surrey

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