Somewhat ironically, self-proclaimed non-feminist Shailene Woodley is doing it for the girls. In an interview with New York Magazine this week, she shouted back after she was asked how she felt being compared to Jennifer Lawrence. “Is it because we both have short hair and vaginas?” she asked Lynn Hirschberg, who conducted the interview. “I see us both as separate individuals. And that’s important.”
She has a point. We compare ourselves to others every day. At work, at the gym, out with our mates – wondering if we should be more intelligent, working harder, be thinner or prettier. Whether we like to admit it or not, many of the life decisions we make might look a lot different if we didn't feel the pressure to compete.
On the other hand, comparing ourselves can be an immeasurable source for self-improvement. But, if overused, it becomes nothing more than an anxiety-inducing, guilt-provoking tool for self-destruction. So why do we do it?
Actually what we’re doing is comparing ourselves to how society says a woman ‘should’ be. “As women, we are constantly told that we need to compare ourselves to a girl in school, to our co-workers" Shailene continued.
“How is the world going to advance if we’re always comparing ourselves to others?… As women, our insecurities are based on all these comparisons. And that creates distress.” We couldn't agree more. You?