BRIDE BOGGLES: Should We Take A Selfie With The Priest? Social Media And Weddings – What’s Really Acceptable?

02 July 2014

Welcome to Bride Boggles, our new wedding blog from heat's editor-in-chief Lucie Cave. Lucie, who's getting married in September to Ben Lunt (a heat Torso of the Week, no less), is taking us through her wedding prep process, from getting a Bridal Body to nailing wedding guest etiquette. This week, it's time to discuss social media and weddings...

Some couples use social media as a way to tell the world how besotted they are with each other. They regularly post things on Facebook like ‘can’t wait to see you tonight baby’ and newly engaged girls post loved-up pictures that scream, ‘I’m so happy my ovaries could burst!”. And as their wedding approaches they fill their timelines with minute by minute countdowns of how excited they are. I’d like to think Ben and I aren’t quite as bad as that. Here’s an example of the sort of tweets Ben has put up over the last few months… 

 

 

Ben Lunt ?@B3nLunt

It's @steakandblowjob day I'd like mine rare, bloody & bludgeoned with a mallet till it's juicy & tender, same as the steak really @luciecave XX

 

Having said that…the romantic in him does make its way onto twitter occasionally. Like the time he once proudly defaced the wet concrete outside our house…

 

(So maybe we are like those couples after all…)

Like it or loathe it, there's no way of avoiding your wedding becoming a social media timeline. Unless your friends are all stuck in the eighties and are still communicating via airmail paper, you might as well embrace the fact your wedding day will be swamped with wedstagram and twedding twalk. Because according to a recent survey, the average wedding goer shares around 22 pictures of the event.

The last two weddings I've been to either had a hashtag of their own (which, before you start grimacing – actually meant it was easy to search for pics of their big day on Instagram afterwards and many of them were even better than the official ones) or told the congregation; 'We don't mind you putting pictures up on Facebook but please only tag us in shots that make us look good!' Something that might’ve made life easier for Kanye West who banned Instagram at his wedding to Kim Kardashian and since admitted it took them nearly a week to touch their photos up “We sat there for four days – because the flowers were off-colour and stuff like that…” he said.

While the idea of having guests social media'ing the heck out of your wedding can sound a bit naff I know there are people who can’t make our ‘do who would be disappointed if we didn’t share any aspect of the big day. It’s also a brilliant way of showing people what happened without having to tell them about it in person for days on end afterwards (same goes for holiday snaps : ‘How was your holiday?’ ‘Oh just look on Facebook!’).

Let’s face it – having a hashtag of your wedding day will probably soon be just as traditional as the wedding cake or invitations.

That said, how much I bother Instagramming at events is usually related to how much alcohol there is on offer. The more sloshed I am, the less photos you will see of what I’ve been up to. At weddings, my photography usually starts and ends as the bride walks down the aisle, after that I'm too busy necking the vino and generally misbehaving (see my bride boggles: wedding guest etiquette). Plus, there's always #regram so I can just pinch other people’s pictures and post them up the day after!

Ben and I even chatted about the idea of live tweeting the wedding until we realised I'd end up looking like this girl who hid her phone in her bra and was answering texts DURING the ceremony.

We were also plucking up the courage to ask the priest if she can do a quick Ellen Degeneres style selfie at the alter - but it’s slowly losing its appeal because so many others have got there first…

I’ve also considered snapping away secretly as I walk down the aisle. One bride hid a camera in her bouquet....

 

I've recently been given an amazing limited edition Lulu Guinness Autographer bag which has a hidden camera inside and takes sequences of pics. I tried to road-test it at the Chiltern Firehouse a few days ago but I wasn’t very good at being inconspicuous...

... although I did manage to snap this tres cool picture of the waiter...

Ben has now got it into his head he wants to wear Google glasses to capture the whole thing and be a 'Groom with a view'. Although as predicted, someone else has already beaten him to it…

 So if people are going to tweet and Facebook the big day, I’d like them to take these rules into consideration…

1. Please don’t 'check in' at the church

2. When I walk down the aisle – no ‘up skirt’ shots a la red carpet pest Vitalii Sediuk who snuck under America Ferrera's dress in Cannes.

3. Don't become so obsessed with tweeting pictures that you actually forget to mingle with the other guests

4. If you’re having a really good hair day and look extra hot, please don’t take any selfies with me

5. Do ‘triple filter’ any pictures of my face

6. If you’re wearing uber high heels stand at least 3 metres behind me in any pictures so my 5ft frame doesn’t look as dwarf-like as usual

7. Don’t forget that we will be documenting the whole thing on video and will have an official photographer so no matter how much you edit your own snapshots – we will have loads more you can’t get away from…


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